Mindful Eating

“When walking, walk. When eating, eat.” · Zen Proverb

Mindful Eating Is All About Eating Without The Burden of Your Mind


 

Mindful Eating is all about eating consciously while remaining in the stillness. If you want to know how wise and enlightened someone is, just observe the person eating. Disclaimer ( I will not be responsible for your reaction to that person ) …

Most people while eating becomes more unconscious. I have seen so many wise, spiritual persons until the food arrives on their table and suddenly they go wild without even realizing it.

This is the basic problem of the human mind. It has inherited this problem since early ages. As we know there was a time in humanity when man used to eat like animals. At that time he was unaware of how to save the food for the next day so he used to eat wildly.Another fear was that what if the other person will do if he will know me. So at that time it was best to eat wildly.

Thanks to some external evolutions now, we don’t have this problem externally, but still somewhere in the human mind the problem is present. Mindful Eating is all about dealing with this problem.

Tips for mindful eating:

Always sense fully the taste of your food.

Yes, always sense the taste and realize the energy field of the food you are eating. Every food has an energy field. By doing this you will soon know that how healthy or unhealthy the food is. Taste the apple next time you eat, you will feel every bite differently.

Be present in the moment

The human mind wants to eat all at once. It does allow the person to taste the thing being eaten. It is also the same with water. You drink more than eight glasses of water daily but you don’t know what you are drinking. You don’t taste it you just want to finish the work. Never ever play this game with your food. Food gives you life energy.

Eat patiently

Don’t be afraid, No early men will come and take your food. Take it easy, enjoy your food. Nature has given food the power to change your mood. How many times food has been able to change your attitude. By the way a bar of chocolate works for me.

Be alert when buying your food

Use your bodily intelligence rather than your mind while making eating decisions. The mind will want more sugar, but the body knows what is the requirement of this moment. So always be still before eating. Let your body make decisions.

Know what is the meaning of mindfulness and do some mindfulness exercises in daily life. It will help you to not only eat wisely but also in every area of your life. Mindfulness is a way to enlightenment. By taking initiative on this small thing, who knows where it will take you.

GOOD LUCK!


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15 Motivating Quotes For A Healthy Lifestyle

Don’t you want to live as long and happy as you can? Have less medical bills. Wake up with more energy throughout the day. Don’t worry about high cholesterol and blood pressure. These are all things that you can attain while living a healthy lifestyle. No one said it was easy. You have to be mentally strong and have will power made of steal. That’s why I decided to give you 15 motivating quotes for a healthy lifestyle.

1. The best feeling is when you know that no one thinks you can do something. Then you prove them all wrong.

Do It Because They Said You Couldn't

2. Nothing worth having is ever easy to come by. The same goes for a healthy life. There may be some hard decisions and a lot of discipline, but when you get what you earn you will appreciate it so much more.

Earn Your Body

3. Some people may think you’re crazy for giving up certain foods. Some people may think you’re even crazier if you workout two or three times in a day. Soon enough they will be asking you how you managed to do it.

First They Ask Why, Then How

4. Worry about the big picture. That means a life long habit of training your body and eating well on a regular basis. Your body will take care of the rest.

Forget About Getting Skinny. Eat Well And Exercise

5. Don’t give up just because you think you’re trying and you don’t see the results that you want. You can push yourself to limits that you never thought possible, only if you really want something.

Work Harder

6. Everyone has will power, including you. If you make a decision to change something in your life then mean it. Go as furiously as you can towards that decision. Don’t waver. That will give a chance for doubt to seep in.

It's Not About Will Power. It's About Change

7. When you hit obstacles in the road, more often then not you can’t control it. What you can control is how you respond to that obstacle that made you fall. It’s your decision how confidently you get back up and back on track. Only worry about what you can control.

It's Not How Far You Fall. It's About How Long It Takes To Get On Your Feet

8. It’s not about how fast you’re moving. As long as you’re moving towards your goals, you are making yourself better. That’s all that matters. Being healthy and strong is a lifelong journey, so you don’t have to rush.

Keep Moving Foreward

9. Look back at #6. It’s all about your mindset. If you make a decision and stick by it, everything else will take care of itself.

Losing Weight Is A Mind Game

10. Whatever your best is, give that effort in everything that you do. If you try your hardest then in the end there will be no regrets. You will be ultimately happy with the result.

Run Faster. Eat Better

11. You only get one body and one life on this earth. Respect yourself and love yourself enough to take the best care of yourself.

Take Care Of Your Body

12. You are the only one who can change you. You are the only one who can make decisions for yourself. You are in full control so there is no excuses. Chase after the body, mind, and health that you want.

You Are The Creator Of Your Own Destiny

13. Nothing will happen if you stand by idly, or just wish for it. A healthy lifestyle requires work, and no one is going to do it for you. Climb your own ladder to success.

You Can't Climb The Ladder Of Success With Your Hands In Your Pockets

14. To reach a goal, first you have to figure out what you want. Picture yourself as the person you want to be and then go after it. Constantly have a clear picture in your mind. Think about it all the time until you reach it. Then guess what? Set another goal to make yourself even better.

You Must Begin To Think Of Yourself As Becoming Ther Person You Want To Be

15. You are mentally and physically stronger than you ever thought possible, but you won’t ever figure that out until you put yourself in that situation. Pursue situations that challenge your mind and body.

You Will Never Know Your Limits Unless You Push Yourself To Them

If you haven’t already started making changes in your lifestyle to be more health conscious, I hope this motivated you to do so. Your body is counting on you. Just simple changes in your lifestyle can save you tons of money on doctor visits and medication. It’s definitely worth the effort. The beginning can be the hardest part. But NEVER quit!


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A Happy Life May Not Be a Meaningful Life

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Psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl once wrote, “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” For most people, feeling happy and finding life meaningful are both important and related goals. But do happiness and meaning always go together? It seems unlikely, given that many of the things that we regularly choose to do – from running marathons to raising children – are unlikely to increase our day-to-day happiness. Recent research suggests that while happiness and a sense of meaning often overlap, they also diverge in important and surprising ways.

Roy Baumeister and his colleagues recently published a study in the Journal of Positive Psychology that helps explain some of the key differences between a happy life and a meaningful one. They asked almost 400 American adults to fill out three surveys over a period of weeks. The surveys asked people to answer a series of questions their happiness levels, the degree to which they saw their lives as meaningful, and their general lifestyle and circumstances.

As one might expect, people’s happiness levels were positively correlated with whether they saw their lives as meaningful. However, the two measures were not identical – suggesting that what makes us happy may not always bring more meaning, and vice versa. To probe for differences between the two, the researchers examined the survey items that asked detailed questions about people’s feelings and moods, their relationships with others, and their day-to-day activities. Feeling happy was strongly correlated with seeing life as easy, pleasant, and free from difficult or troubling events. Happiness was also correlated with being in good health and generally feeling well most of the time. However, none of these things were correlated with a greater sense of meaning. Feeling good most of the time might help us feel happier, but it doesn’t necessarily bring a sense of purpose to our lives.

Interestingly, their findings suggest that money, contrary to popular sayings, can indeed buy happiness. Having enough money to buy what one needs in life, as well as what one desires, were also positively correlated with greater levels of happiness. However, having enough money seemed to make little difference in life’s sense of meaning. This same disconnect was recently found in a multi-national study conducted by Shigehiro Oishi and Ed Diener, who show that people from wealthy countries tend to be happier, however, they don’t see their lives as more meaningful. In fact, Oishi and Diener found that people from poorer countries tend to see their lives as more meaningful. Although the reasons are not totally clear, this might be related to greater religious belief, having more children, and stronger social ties among those living in poorer countries. Perhaps instead of saying that “money doesn’t buy happiness,” we ought to say instead that “money doesn’t buy meaning.”

Not too surprisingly, our relationships with other people are related to both how happy we are as well as how meaningful we see our lives. In Baumeister’s study, feeling more connected to others improved both happiness and meaning. However, the role we adopt in our relationships makes an important difference. Participants in the study who were more likely to agree with the statement, “I am a giver,” reported less happiness than people who were more likely to agree with, “I am a taker.” However, the “givers” reported higher levels of meaning in their lives compared to the “takers.” In addition, spending more time with friends was related to greater happiness but not more meaning. In contrast, spending more time with people one loves was correlated with greater meaning but not with more happiness. The researchers suspect that spending time with loved ones is often more difficult, but ultimately more satisfying, than spending time with friends.

When it comes to thinking about how to be happier, many of us fantasize about taking more vacations or finding ways to avoid mundane tasks. We may dream about skipping housework and instead doing something fun and pleasurable. However, tasks which don’t make us happy can, over time, add up to a meaningful life. Even routine activities — talking on the phone, cooking, cleaning, housework, meditating, emailing, praying, waiting on others, and balancing finances — appeared to bring more meaning to people’s lives, but not happiness in the moment. 

More broadly, the findings suggest that pure happiness is about getting what we want in life—whether through people, money, or life circumstances. Meaningfulness, in contrast, seems to have more to do with giving, effort, and sacrifice. It is clear that a highly meaningful life may not always include a great deal of day-to-day happiness. And, the study suggests, our American obsession with happiness may be intimately related to a feeling of emptiness, or a life that lacks meaning.


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The Top 5 Ways to Live Life to the Fullest

Related imageIf today was your last day alive, would you die fulfilled?

The fear of making a mistake can stop us from living a dream. We allow that fear to stop us.

Do you wake up fresh, revitalized grateful to be alive? Life shouldn’t be the zombie apocalypse. Live damn it, don’t just exist.

Here are five things you can do now to start living life to the fullest:

1. Live with a sense of purpose. Live intentionally. Do not concern yourself or drown your thoughts with other people’s opinions. One of the most common regrets the dying have is that they did not lead the life they wanted or worse they lived someone else’s life. They allowed others to dictate their choices and actions.

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All too often we live each day with no sense of purpose and walk around aimlessly just going through the motions of life. But, bit by bit time is passing and you are slowly getting closer to your death. You must wake up and start taking action towards the things you want in life right now. Not tomorrow, not next week but right now.

Trying to impress people is a waste of time. The truth is at the end of the day, one of which will be your last, everyone is concerned with their own lives too much to worry about yours. Think about it. How much time do you spend thinking about other people’s lives? Right around zero.

I cannot believe that the purpose of life is to be happy. I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be compassionate. It is, above all to matter, to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all.. – Leo Rosten

Live your life to the fullest. Everything else is bullshit.

Hold being content in contempt. I’m talking utter distaste for letting life slide by. If you know what your worth then go out and get what your worth!

Make a conscious choice each and everyday to something you’re afraid of. Do something that scares you. Make a bold decision right now and go do it. Your dreams are on the other side of your fears. In other words, your life will be a lot better once you stop being such a wussy.

No one ever wrote a song about how awesome it is to be a coward. Be a superhero and kick some ass. The life your saving is yours.

Remember you are the movie star of your life. Is your life something worth watching? Would you pay $12 to watch your life on a screen?

If not, then right now, make a list of five things you want but were afraid to try. Commit to doing them over the next 30 days. Your life is worth a month of your time.

Example:

1. Build a business you are passionate about

2. Get into phenomenal shape

3. Find the woman of your dreams

4. Travel to another city or state

5. Spend more time with friends and family

Come back. Check in. Then do another 30 days. Get more done in the second month than you did in the first.  This is where the rubber hits the road. If you write down your goals and work every day towards them you are now living a purposeful life. You are living on the edge and waking up every day with the burning desire to crush the day.

2. Working too hard.  We weren’t meant to squander our lives working to the point where we neglect who we care about. Our family, friends, girlfriend or even wife and children, and in some cases missing the opportunities to create those connections, are all too valuable. In fact, they are priceless.

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We all have to pay our bills, but remember why you are working to pay them in the first place. What good is putting a roof over child’s head if he doesn’t recognize your face? You can work so hard that you miss out on the opportunities to enjoy your relationships with your girlfriend or wife. Just remember who is going to be there when you are on your death bed? You’re clients or the people who love you?

Be fully present. When you are with your girlfriend, listen. Be present, be a man of action. Live in the NOW DAMNIT! Or when you are home with your wife and kids, be home with your wife and kids. You can think about work again when it is the right time to do it: at work. Be with them now!

Think of some of the reasons why you can’t do what you want. Then, realize them for what they are: excuses. Excuses blow. Their the source of your (sooner than you think) dying bed regret.

 “Your greatest self has been waiting your whole life; don’t make it wait any longer.” – Steve Maraboli

Work is the means to get what we want, not an excuse to sacrifice our dreams and spending time with those we love.

Eliminate excuses to why you cannot do what you want. 

Think of any excuse that has held you back and get angry at it. Get freaking hot steaming pissed! Angry enough to not let it get in the way anymore. That excuse is your past and has absolutely zero rights to infringe on your future. Live in the now to create a better tomorrow.

3. Get shit off your chest. Holding a grudge is like giving someone free rent inside your head. Kick ‘em out and free yourself from this misery!

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Bob Proctor looks at disease by hyphenating the word: dis-ease. Whatever the grudge, whatever you are angry about, I promise you it is not worth the cost. Speak up and address it if the other person matters to you. Have the balls to work it out.

“Much unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment and things left unsaid.”- Fyodor Dostoyevsky

If the other person doesn’t matter to you, take the even bigger step and drop it. Let it go. Drop them. Let them go.

You can be all zen like and let out a nice long om, or you can do the Jay-Z and brush that shit off your shoulder. Same thing really. But the point is, you are MOVING ON!

Identify and make a list of the grudges you have in your life. Even the relationships where you were the one who f’d up. Then write a message to them and say that you are letting it go. You are not doing it for them but for yourself. The message might confuse them at first but whatever happens you will be a lighter freer person for it. Set yourself free by simply letting go.

4. Stay in touch with the people who matter. People wish they kept up friendships but waited too long.Image result for Stay in touch with the people who matterRekindle lost friendships. It is almost scary to think of how easy it is to reconnect with people and find them on Facebook or other websites. That person is waiting for you to reconnect, even if they don’t know it.

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.” – John Lennon

The friends you have and find on Facebook; do more than liking their comments. Pick up the phone. Talk. Listen. Reclaim human connection. The sound of their voice, a laugh that’s real will happen. Texting is asinine; it’s for douchebags who are afraid to connect. Nobody wants to be a douchebag. Call. Meet them and hug them when you see them. Talk to them, listen to them and help them. Be a good friend not a robot.

Who is that person that is waiting for you to make that call? You know the person and you know it would make their day. Is it your father, grandma or an old friend from college. Stop reading this article right now and pick up the phone and give them a call. Number 5 will be waiting for you when you get back.

5. Choose happiness. Happiness is a choice. It’s something you can decide to be. You do not have to wait until you graduate college, get the job or the amazing girlfriend. And don’t think that money will make you happy. You have a choice to make today. Are you going to smile when you leave the house or are you going to dread going to work. Are you going to say “hi” to people as you walk by them or are you going to frown and be upset about things for no apparent reason. WAKE UP! You only live once so you minus well choose to be a happy man and live life to the fullest.

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Did you know happiness is a choice? Too often in our lives we feel like we are on automatic pilot. We react instead of acting.

Slow down. Breathe. Assuming you’re not in combat you probably don’t need to react so fast. Give yourself a moment there hero.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Start incorporating this process into your thoughts:

Stop. Eliminate the clutter and nonsense in your mind. You will discover a great truth: As bad as you may have thought it was, you are in fact still here.

Evaluate. Look at the situation and determine which action would be your best action.

Decide. Decide what you want to do.

Act. Put your choice into motion.

In every single moment, you have the ability to stop, evaluate, decide on happiness and act to make it happen. Happiness is just one choice. How often do you choose to be silly? To laugh? To play?

Choose them. Before you talk to your mother in law tell yourself you are going to choose to be loving. Before you have a staff meeting tell yourself you are going to empower your team. You will notice results immediately.

*Bonus tip for living better

Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke of the great urgency of NOW.

Knowing our time is limited demands that we assassinate our apathy and resignation. Man up. Live a life worthy of your gifts. Call yourself out. Call out bullshit when you know you are making the weak ass choice and choose something bolder.

Fear is normal, courage is doing it anyway. Have the tenacity to go out kicking and screaming with the trail blaze marks to prove it. Your life is worth it.


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Imagine Yourself Happy

Flashbacks of traumatic scenes—such as a bombing or death of a loved one—are one of the hallmarks for those suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Mentally healthy people are also affected emotionally by images that we encounter in our day-to-day lives. For example, you might replay an embarrassing moment at work, and feel increased anxiety about your job, or envision a relaxing Sunday spent at the beach, and feel more relaxed. A new study looked at how guided imagery could be used to tweak the images, leading to greater happiness.

Guided imagery is a technique that been used by psychotherapists and other trained practitioners to treat a range of issues, such as insomnia, chronic pain, post traumatic stress disorder and grief. The close relationship between the human imagery system and our emotions can cause deep emotional perturbations. Velikova and her team wanted to see if people could learn to use guided imagery on themselves, similar to a meditation practice.

Thirty healthy volunteers underwent a two-day workshop to learn guided imagery techniques, such as imagery transformation; how to use positive imagery for future events and goals; and how to enhance mental balance. The group then used these techniques at home for 12 weeks, for 15 to 20 minutes a day.

Via EEG measurements of the brains of the participants, the researchers were able to compared the brain activity as “before and afters.” The results? The EEG data showed changed in the region of the brain known to be involved in imaging pleasant emotions and contributing to life satisfaction. There was also increased connectivity between areas of the brain linked to image processing between the two hemispheres. In psychological tests, the subjects’ depressive symptoms were reduced, and volunteers reported feeling overall more satisfied with life and more efficient.  

Velikova and her team think that this self-guided imagery has great potential to boost everyday well being, and as a tool to treat mild depression. The team noted it could also be used by businesses to boost morale and productivity.


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14 Things We Need To Stop Doing If We Want To Live A Better Life

Resolutions for self-improvement are great (if you’re the type of person who is so self-disciplined that you can actually stay true to your goals for longer than one week). As imperfect humans, we are more prone to listen when we are told, “No, don’t. STOP.” The negative seems to always be more powerful.


Here are 14 things we should all stop doing:

1. Stop spending more on material goods than on experiences. Sure, it’s great to feel pretty, handsome and sexy. A single compliment on your looks can make your whole day. However, you are not truly deprived of anything material-wise. Save up for moments you will remember for the rest of your life, exhilarating moments that make your heart pound and take your breath away. When you want something enough, you’ll figure out how to prioritize and afford it.

2. Stop making up stories to make your life seem more interesting than it actually is. There is nothing glorious about superficiality and there is nothing wrong with the mundane. Just tell the truth — to others and to yourself. Otherwise, you’ll fall for the false impression of yourself and you’ll believe you’re more worthy of complacency than you actually are. Then, you too will lose track of what’s real and what’s not.

3. Stop being afraid to say “YES” to more things. Sitting around at home, on the Internet is comfortable and familiar, but there are so many more opportunities if you just show up. Attend more meetings, sign onto new projects, go out for the sake of it, explore a new place by yourself and don’t be afraid to speak up. Feeling passionate and creative is so much better than feeling lethargic.

4. Stop beating yourself up for not having the time to work out. Also, stop making excuses when you have plenty of time to get some exercise. If you feel like a blob on a couch, your brain probably looks like a blob on the couch, too.

5. Stop hating yourself for eating dessert. But also, stop eating dessert just because you hate yourself. Chocolate may seem like an instant remedy for all of your insecurities, but there are other, more productive ways to deal with stress and emotions.

6. Stop scrolling through Twitter when you’re at dinner with friends. Stop refreshing your news feed when you’re at a party. Stop checking your notifications every time you go out. You will always be able to catch up on social media, but you only have so long with the people you care about.

7. Stop giving your time to frenemies and surrounding yourself with people who won’t reciprocate feelings of love. Stop allowing people who think negatively of you to consume your energy; they don’t deserve it. For starters, find friends you can get to know on a sober level (there’s a thought!). Make friends with people who are interesting and interested in you, too.

8. Stop being so judgmental. Consciously stop basing first impressions on physical attractiveness. People are so much more than just a Facebook photo or a profile view from afar. They might surprise you about how beautiful they really are.

9. Stop revolving your every action on what people may think. Let’s not throw it back to high school. If you think somebody is interesting or attractive, introduce yourself and tell him or her about it. If you want to join a new friend group, club or project, don’t worry about the initial newbie awkwardness. Don’t refute your beliefs or deny your values because others disagree with them. Don’t look disinterested or indifferent because you think it makes you seem cooler; it doesn’t. It only makes you seem dispassionate, emotionless and boring.

10. Stop complaining about being constantly busy. No one cares and no one will pity you except for yourself. The pity party can only last so long before it runs dry. The next time you’re idly procrastinating, remind yourself that you are not so busy after all.

11. Stop over analyzing everything. Some people will love you and then will suddenly walk away without telling you what you did wrong. Others may be fickle or flaky in trying to figure out exactly what they want, but you do the same thing. Why does every hookup need to be regretted? Why does every text, like or favorite need to have an alternate meaning? Just relax. Just let ambiguity… exist.

12. Stop erasing and regretting. Write down ideas while they are still fresh; take way too many unnecessary photos. You’re in your 20s — live more while you can still call yourself young. You have time to regret everything later. Or, simply don’t regret.

13. Stop being afraid to pursue the dream, no matter how cliché it may sound. You dream of writing books, creating films, becoming a CEO or this country’s president. Why not let the desire to make your dreams come true overpower your fears for reaching them?

14. Stop beating yourself up for not being your 100 percent best all of the time. Self-improvement is a gradual process. Self-discipline is important, but we all screw up. We all cut corners and need vacations. Give yourself some leeway and then, get back on track.


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Five Tips for Breaking Your Tech Habit

Confident woman, looking very casual sitting in the street, starIt’s tough to disconnect in an always-on world. Many people have shared with me how their devices are an extension of their bodies to them. Arriving at the store or their office, realizing they’ve forgotten their phone, results in anxiety. Most of us probably know that overuse of the internet is not a good thing for us, but like all habits, they are hard to break.  Since connectivity a bit part of today’s culture and can negatively influence our mental health, it’s a trend to we need to pay attention to. Here are five of my favorite tips that address negative tech habit.

 

 

  1. Do not start your day with email: It can set a negative tone for your whole day. The moment when you wake up, it’s not a great idea to read that email about another meeting that’s a waste of time or get a reminder for an overdue bill. You’re cranky before the day even begins. Start your day with a short devotional or a few moments in the sunshine to begin on a calm note.
  2. Leave your phone in the car: When I’m at the grocery store, I don’t need to take a call or check my email. There’s nothing currently happening in my life that requires me to be available 24/7. I realize that’s not the case for everyone. However, when you can leave it in the car, you’re removing the temptation to mindlessly scroll. If you’re standing in a long line, you don’t have to summon the willpower to not compulsively check your phone.  Instead you can observe what’s happening around you and maybe even talk to another person in real life.
  3. Disable accounts: I can see your expression. The thought of not checking an account daily may be a foreign concept to you. Some tell me it’s the only way they can keep up to date with their grandchildren so they can’t imagine not logging into account for a period of time. Notice I did not say “Delete.” I said “Disable.”  You can disable it for a period of time and come back at a later date. Spending time on the social media does not bring you any closer to meeting your goals. It only serves as a distraction and often times a downer — especially with commentary and options on our recent presidential election. You don’t want to fill your head with negativity and wear yourself down with information you simply don’t need to know.
  4. Use “Zenware”: There are a number of tools and gadgets available to help monitor and prevent your internet use. With them, you block the internet for a determined period of time and set your browser to keep you off specific sites. These will not solve the problem. However, these tools will support you in your efforts to change.
  5. Mindfulness: Pay attention to how your technology use makes you feel. Are you anxious? Annoyed? Tired? Negative?

Below are some other questions to ask yourself when it comes to your overuse of technology. You may even want to post them by your primary computer and do a self-check throughout the day.

  • Why am I surfing these sites?
  • What do I hope to get from it?
  • How do I feel about what I’m reading online?
  • What’s the expected outcome?
  • Is it getting me to where I want to go?
  • What do I not have time to do because I’m spending time online?

So is your heavy internet use really an “addiction”? Is it really that bad to be connected all day? Should you bother monitoring time online? Yes. Yes to monitoring your time. Yes to not being connected all day every day. And yes, in some cases, it can become an addiction.

The internet bombards us with other people’s thoughts, ideas and expertise. This constant influx of information — much of which is annoying or negative — leaves little room for creative thinking. We need downtime and quiet time to rest and recharge. At the very least, take a few minutes to evaluate your own habits. I bet there is some room for improvement. Start by asking yourself some of the above questions about your use and incorporate one of the tips above for breaking your habit. Even small change can go a long way in improving how you feel mentally and increase your productivity.


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