Mindful Eating

“When walking, walk. When eating, eat.” · Zen Proverb

Mindful Eating Is All About Eating Without The Burden of Your Mind


 

Mindful Eating is all about eating consciously while remaining in the stillness. If you want to know how wise and enlightened someone is, just observe the person eating. Disclaimer ( I will not be responsible for your reaction to that person ) …

Most people while eating becomes more unconscious. I have seen so many wise, spiritual persons until the food arrives on their table and suddenly they go wild without even realizing it.

This is the basic problem of the human mind. It has inherited this problem since early ages. As we know there was a time in humanity when man used to eat like animals. At that time he was unaware of how to save the food for the next day so he used to eat wildly.Another fear was that what if the other person will do if he will know me. So at that time it was best to eat wildly.

Thanks to some external evolutions now, we don’t have this problem externally, but still somewhere in the human mind the problem is present. Mindful Eating is all about dealing with this problem.

Tips for mindful eating:

Always sense fully the taste of your food.

Yes, always sense the taste and realize the energy field of the food you are eating. Every food has an energy field. By doing this you will soon know that how healthy or unhealthy the food is. Taste the apple next time you eat, you will feel every bite differently.

Be present in the moment

The human mind wants to eat all at once. It does allow the person to taste the thing being eaten. It is also the same with water. You drink more than eight glasses of water daily but you don’t know what you are drinking. You don’t taste it you just want to finish the work. Never ever play this game with your food. Food gives you life energy.

Eat patiently

Don’t be afraid, No early men will come and take your food. Take it easy, enjoy your food. Nature has given food the power to change your mood. How many times food has been able to change your attitude. By the way a bar of chocolate works for me.

Be alert when buying your food

Use your bodily intelligence rather than your mind while making eating decisions. The mind will want more sugar, but the body knows what is the requirement of this moment. So always be still before eating. Let your body make decisions.

Know what is the meaning of mindfulness and do some mindfulness exercises in daily life. It will help you to not only eat wisely but also in every area of your life. Mindfulness is a way to enlightenment. By taking initiative on this small thing, who knows where it will take you.

GOOD LUCK!


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15 Motivating Quotes For A Healthy Lifestyle

Don’t you want to live as long and happy as you can? Have less medical bills. Wake up with more energy throughout the day. Don’t worry about high cholesterol and blood pressure. These are all things that you can attain while living a healthy lifestyle. No one said it was easy. You have to be mentally strong and have will power made of steal. That’s why I decided to give you 15 motivating quotes for a healthy lifestyle.

1. The best feeling is when you know that no one thinks you can do something. Then you prove them all wrong.

Do It Because They Said You Couldn't

2. Nothing worth having is ever easy to come by. The same goes for a healthy life. There may be some hard decisions and a lot of discipline, but when you get what you earn you will appreciate it so much more.

Earn Your Body

3. Some people may think you’re crazy for giving up certain foods. Some people may think you’re even crazier if you workout two or three times in a day. Soon enough they will be asking you how you managed to do it.

First They Ask Why, Then How

4. Worry about the big picture. That means a life long habit of training your body and eating well on a regular basis. Your body will take care of the rest.

Forget About Getting Skinny. Eat Well And Exercise

5. Don’t give up just because you think you’re trying and you don’t see the results that you want. You can push yourself to limits that you never thought possible, only if you really want something.

Work Harder

6. Everyone has will power, including you. If you make a decision to change something in your life then mean it. Go as furiously as you can towards that decision. Don’t waver. That will give a chance for doubt to seep in.

It's Not About Will Power. It's About Change

7. When you hit obstacles in the road, more often then not you can’t control it. What you can control is how you respond to that obstacle that made you fall. It’s your decision how confidently you get back up and back on track. Only worry about what you can control.

It's Not How Far You Fall. It's About How Long It Takes To Get On Your Feet

8. It’s not about how fast you’re moving. As long as you’re moving towards your goals, you are making yourself better. That’s all that matters. Being healthy and strong is a lifelong journey, so you don’t have to rush.

Keep Moving Foreward

9. Look back at #6. It’s all about your mindset. If you make a decision and stick by it, everything else will take care of itself.

Losing Weight Is A Mind Game

10. Whatever your best is, give that effort in everything that you do. If you try your hardest then in the end there will be no regrets. You will be ultimately happy with the result.

Run Faster. Eat Better

11. You only get one body and one life on this earth. Respect yourself and love yourself enough to take the best care of yourself.

Take Care Of Your Body

12. You are the only one who can change you. You are the only one who can make decisions for yourself. You are in full control so there is no excuses. Chase after the body, mind, and health that you want.

You Are The Creator Of Your Own Destiny

13. Nothing will happen if you stand by idly, or just wish for it. A healthy lifestyle requires work, and no one is going to do it for you. Climb your own ladder to success.

You Can't Climb The Ladder Of Success With Your Hands In Your Pockets

14. To reach a goal, first you have to figure out what you want. Picture yourself as the person you want to be and then go after it. Constantly have a clear picture in your mind. Think about it all the time until you reach it. Then guess what? Set another goal to make yourself even better.

You Must Begin To Think Of Yourself As Becoming Ther Person You Want To Be

15. You are mentally and physically stronger than you ever thought possible, but you won’t ever figure that out until you put yourself in that situation. Pursue situations that challenge your mind and body.

You Will Never Know Your Limits Unless You Push Yourself To Them

If you haven’t already started making changes in your lifestyle to be more health conscious, I hope this motivated you to do so. Your body is counting on you. Just simple changes in your lifestyle can save you tons of money on doctor visits and medication. It’s definitely worth the effort. The beginning can be the hardest part. But NEVER quit!


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5 Tips for a Happy & Healthy Mind

Related imageWhat kind of information do you like to fill your mind with? Do you find yourself constantly reading cheap or free newspapers only to find there is a terrible story in it that upsets you? Or perhaps you get caught up in other people’s opinions and conversations and find yourself agreeing to things that you actually don’t agree with!

Did you know that you are heavily influenced by the people you surround yourself with on a regular basis? In fact, you pick up behaviors, mannerisms, opinions, beliefs and oodles of other information that your brain unconsciously absorbs, resulting in similar behaviors.
If you want to make a change, grow or break a habit or routine, look to your environment – the people around you, where you work, what you read and how you speak to yourself. All have significant influences on what you are internalizing, and have an impact on how you live your life.

Here are five tips on keeping a healthy mind to help you on your way!
 
1. Meditation/Mindfulness
We read about the profound effects that meditation has on our mind, but how many of you actually do it on a daily basis? When you meditate, you are giving your mind time to clear, reformat itself for all the new information that is going to be taken in the following day, or day ahead.
2. Media
As important as it is to be aware of what is going on in the world, the media is very centered on pain and negativity. This fuels pessimism, and ideally it’s best to avoid subjecting your mind to it regularly. There is no point in being stressed or worried about something you have limited control over; it’s a pointless waste of energy. Also, beware of brainwashing; all is not necessarily as it seems, and the media are great at exaggerating and bending the truth. If you want to make a difference to the world in some way, you could seek out some voluntary work or donate to a charity.
3. Surround yourself with people who give you opportunities to grow.
Friendships and relationships are based on love, and love is energy. When the frequencies change, you will find that particular friends and relationships may drop away, or you don’t feel you have anything in common with them any longer. If you continue to hold on to relationships which no longer serve you, they sap your energy resources or distract you from focussing your mind. Don’t be afraid to let go if you feel the time is right; you will find that new opportunities will arise as a result. You never know who that next amazing person/teacher/friend/lover/mentor is going to be!
4.  Eat healthy
Of course, eating healthy and staying hydrated are really important for brain function.
The experience is different for everyone, which is why only you know what your body needs and would benefit from eliminating. You can experiment by cutting out a certain food or drink for as short as a week if you suspect that your body is rejecting it. The turnaround time is normally five days to completely flush it out of your system.
5.  Spend your time doing something you LOVE!
The most important thing of all is to ensure you spend time doing a hobby or activity you love. When we participate in doing something we love, we radiate so many positive emotions, all magnetizing out into the universe to bring you back more joy and happiness. So many people get stuck in a rut and lose focus on what is important and brings them pleasure. Find something you love to do, and do it daily. Make time for it, and even better, make a career out of it! Life is supposed to be an enjoyable experience. Of course, you can learn through pain, but why learn through pain when you can learn and grow through pleasure?

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Imagine Yourself Happy

Flashbacks of traumatic scenes—such as a bombing or death of a loved one—are one of the hallmarks for those suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Mentally healthy people are also affected emotionally by images that we encounter in our day-to-day lives. For example, you might replay an embarrassing moment at work, and feel increased anxiety about your job, or envision a relaxing Sunday spent at the beach, and feel more relaxed. A new study looked at how guided imagery could be used to tweak the images, leading to greater happiness.

Guided imagery is a technique that been used by psychotherapists and other trained practitioners to treat a range of issues, such as insomnia, chronic pain, post traumatic stress disorder and grief. The close relationship between the human imagery system and our emotions can cause deep emotional perturbations. Velikova and her team wanted to see if people could learn to use guided imagery on themselves, similar to a meditation practice.

Thirty healthy volunteers underwent a two-day workshop to learn guided imagery techniques, such as imagery transformation; how to use positive imagery for future events and goals; and how to enhance mental balance. The group then used these techniques at home for 12 weeks, for 15 to 20 minutes a day.

Via EEG measurements of the brains of the participants, the researchers were able to compared the brain activity as “before and afters.” The results? The EEG data showed changed in the region of the brain known to be involved in imaging pleasant emotions and contributing to life satisfaction. There was also increased connectivity between areas of the brain linked to image processing between the two hemispheres. In psychological tests, the subjects’ depressive symptoms were reduced, and volunteers reported feeling overall more satisfied with life and more efficient.  

Velikova and her team think that this self-guided imagery has great potential to boost everyday well being, and as a tool to treat mild depression. The team noted it could also be used by businesses to boost morale and productivity.


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14 Things We Need To Stop Doing If We Want To Live A Better Life

Resolutions for self-improvement are great (if you’re the type of person who is so self-disciplined that you can actually stay true to your goals for longer than one week). As imperfect humans, we are more prone to listen when we are told, “No, don’t. STOP.” The negative seems to always be more powerful.


Here are 14 things we should all stop doing:

1. Stop spending more on material goods than on experiences. Sure, it’s great to feel pretty, handsome and sexy. A single compliment on your looks can make your whole day. However, you are not truly deprived of anything material-wise. Save up for moments you will remember for the rest of your life, exhilarating moments that make your heart pound and take your breath away. When you want something enough, you’ll figure out how to prioritize and afford it.

2. Stop making up stories to make your life seem more interesting than it actually is. There is nothing glorious about superficiality and there is nothing wrong with the mundane. Just tell the truth — to others and to yourself. Otherwise, you’ll fall for the false impression of yourself and you’ll believe you’re more worthy of complacency than you actually are. Then, you too will lose track of what’s real and what’s not.

3. Stop being afraid to say “YES” to more things. Sitting around at home, on the Internet is comfortable and familiar, but there are so many more opportunities if you just show up. Attend more meetings, sign onto new projects, go out for the sake of it, explore a new place by yourself and don’t be afraid to speak up. Feeling passionate and creative is so much better than feeling lethargic.

4. Stop beating yourself up for not having the time to work out. Also, stop making excuses when you have plenty of time to get some exercise. If you feel like a blob on a couch, your brain probably looks like a blob on the couch, too.

5. Stop hating yourself for eating dessert. But also, stop eating dessert just because you hate yourself. Chocolate may seem like an instant remedy for all of your insecurities, but there are other, more productive ways to deal with stress and emotions.

6. Stop scrolling through Twitter when you’re at dinner with friends. Stop refreshing your news feed when you’re at a party. Stop checking your notifications every time you go out. You will always be able to catch up on social media, but you only have so long with the people you care about.

7. Stop giving your time to frenemies and surrounding yourself with people who won’t reciprocate feelings of love. Stop allowing people who think negatively of you to consume your energy; they don’t deserve it. For starters, find friends you can get to know on a sober level (there’s a thought!). Make friends with people who are interesting and interested in you, too.

8. Stop being so judgmental. Consciously stop basing first impressions on physical attractiveness. People are so much more than just a Facebook photo or a profile view from afar. They might surprise you about how beautiful they really are.

9. Stop revolving your every action on what people may think. Let’s not throw it back to high school. If you think somebody is interesting or attractive, introduce yourself and tell him or her about it. If you want to join a new friend group, club or project, don’t worry about the initial newbie awkwardness. Don’t refute your beliefs or deny your values because others disagree with them. Don’t look disinterested or indifferent because you think it makes you seem cooler; it doesn’t. It only makes you seem dispassionate, emotionless and boring.

10. Stop complaining about being constantly busy. No one cares and no one will pity you except for yourself. The pity party can only last so long before it runs dry. The next time you’re idly procrastinating, remind yourself that you are not so busy after all.

11. Stop over analyzing everything. Some people will love you and then will suddenly walk away without telling you what you did wrong. Others may be fickle or flaky in trying to figure out exactly what they want, but you do the same thing. Why does every hookup need to be regretted? Why does every text, like or favorite need to have an alternate meaning? Just relax. Just let ambiguity… exist.

12. Stop erasing and regretting. Write down ideas while they are still fresh; take way too many unnecessary photos. You’re in your 20s — live more while you can still call yourself young. You have time to regret everything later. Or, simply don’t regret.

13. Stop being afraid to pursue the dream, no matter how cliché it may sound. You dream of writing books, creating films, becoming a CEO or this country’s president. Why not let the desire to make your dreams come true overpower your fears for reaching them?

14. Stop beating yourself up for not being your 100 percent best all of the time. Self-improvement is a gradual process. Self-discipline is important, but we all screw up. We all cut corners and need vacations. Give yourself some leeway and then, get back on track.


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Five Tips for Breaking Your Tech Habit

Confident woman, looking very casual sitting in the street, starIt’s tough to disconnect in an always-on world. Many people have shared with me how their devices are an extension of their bodies to them. Arriving at the store or their office, realizing they’ve forgotten their phone, results in anxiety. Most of us probably know that overuse of the internet is not a good thing for us, but like all habits, they are hard to break.  Since connectivity a bit part of today’s culture and can negatively influence our mental health, it’s a trend to we need to pay attention to. Here are five of my favorite tips that address negative tech habit.

 

 

  1. Do not start your day with email: It can set a negative tone for your whole day. The moment when you wake up, it’s not a great idea to read that email about another meeting that’s a waste of time or get a reminder for an overdue bill. You’re cranky before the day even begins. Start your day with a short devotional or a few moments in the sunshine to begin on a calm note.
  2. Leave your phone in the car: When I’m at the grocery store, I don’t need to take a call or check my email. There’s nothing currently happening in my life that requires me to be available 24/7. I realize that’s not the case for everyone. However, when you can leave it in the car, you’re removing the temptation to mindlessly scroll. If you’re standing in a long line, you don’t have to summon the willpower to not compulsively check your phone.  Instead you can observe what’s happening around you and maybe even talk to another person in real life.
  3. Disable accounts: I can see your expression. The thought of not checking an account daily may be a foreign concept to you. Some tell me it’s the only way they can keep up to date with their grandchildren so they can’t imagine not logging into account for a period of time. Notice I did not say “Delete.” I said “Disable.”  You can disable it for a period of time and come back at a later date. Spending time on the social media does not bring you any closer to meeting your goals. It only serves as a distraction and often times a downer — especially with commentary and options on our recent presidential election. You don’t want to fill your head with negativity and wear yourself down with information you simply don’t need to know.
  4. Use “Zenware”: There are a number of tools and gadgets available to help monitor and prevent your internet use. With them, you block the internet for a determined period of time and set your browser to keep you off specific sites. These will not solve the problem. However, these tools will support you in your efforts to change.
  5. Mindfulness: Pay attention to how your technology use makes you feel. Are you anxious? Annoyed? Tired? Negative?

Below are some other questions to ask yourself when it comes to your overuse of technology. You may even want to post them by your primary computer and do a self-check throughout the day.

  • Why am I surfing these sites?
  • What do I hope to get from it?
  • How do I feel about what I’m reading online?
  • What’s the expected outcome?
  • Is it getting me to where I want to go?
  • What do I not have time to do because I’m spending time online?

So is your heavy internet use really an “addiction”? Is it really that bad to be connected all day? Should you bother monitoring time online? Yes. Yes to monitoring your time. Yes to not being connected all day every day. And yes, in some cases, it can become an addiction.

The internet bombards us with other people’s thoughts, ideas and expertise. This constant influx of information — much of which is annoying or negative — leaves little room for creative thinking. We need downtime and quiet time to rest and recharge. At the very least, take a few minutes to evaluate your own habits. I bet there is some room for improvement. Start by asking yourself some of the above questions about your use and incorporate one of the tips above for breaking your habit. Even small change can go a long way in improving how you feel mentally and increase your productivity.


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When Worrying Takes Over

worried-womanThere are many worriers out there: The man who constantly worries about whether he has or will get cancer or another terrible disease. The woman who lies awake at night, fearing that she will never meet the right one. The grandmother who can’t let go of the idea that the plane with her grandchildren on board might crash. The employee who can’t concentrate because he fears he may have made a mistake that will cost him his job.

They are all different, but worriers also have a lot in common: Unconsciously, they see worrying as a useful strategy to get prepared and gain control. However, worries have a tendency to take over and invade their minds much of their waking hours. In vain, they try reducing it in various, ineffective ways. The man runs to his doctors every week to take new tests. The woman desperately tries to battle her thoughts of being alone, keeping herself occupied or seeking confirmation from others that she will be loved. The grandmother keeps calling the airline, scours news websites for plane crashes and calls her grandchildren as soon as they land. The employee goes through all the work he has done in recent days even one more time.

Most of us will understand that this does not work in the long term. You may have tried it yourself. It requires a lot of time and provides only temporary relief, before worry knocks at the door again. It can be hard on us and those around us. Few, however, have an understanding of why this is and what alternatives we have.

Supply and Demand of Thoughts

We try either to force or instruct ourselves to “stop thinking about it.” Have you tried this strategy? We can test how it works. Close your eyes and imagine a polar bear for 10 seconds. Easy, right? Now, for the next minute, try not to think of a polar bear at all. Every time you think of a polar bear, you need to squeeze your hand hard. Difficult? This task is nearly impossible for most people, because of a few simple reasons. The things we fear are like magnets for our attention. If you are afraid of dogs, you will notice them as soon as they are nearby. The thought of a polar bear is a threat in this experiment. However, what is more troublesome is the following: If you are trying not to think of a polar bear, you must also check if you’re thinking of a polar bear. And that way, you also need to think of a polar bear. It is an impossible rule to follow.

This is important for worriers to remember: The more we get annoyed by our thoughts or treat them as if they are important or dangerous, the more they come.

By this point, we need to make a distinction. There are two things that come into play when our minds run into chaos: The thought that triggers it, and how we relate to this thought. The triggering thought might be “My body feels heavy.” How we relate to this thought might be to worry about it, an exhausting mental repetitive activity where we run through all the possible scenarios and implications it may have. “What if the heaviness is a sign of cancer? It might be an undiagnosed testicular cancer. The doctor did not check for this the last time I went there. There may be other symptoms I have. I better Google it. I might die!”

If our primary strategy when a scary thought comes is worrying or seeking confirmation, we treat the thought as if it is very important. That way, it becomes a polar bear and will come more often. It’s almost as if we think that thinking the thought increases the likelihood that it will happen or has already happened. In a way, our brains operate through basic market principles: supply and demand. If we always buy every thought we have, the offer becomes larger. We try frantically to think it through, in order to stop worrying, when we are really just reinforcing the pattern.

Try Problem Solving Instead

This is typical because at a certain level, many of us see worrying as a useful strategy. We get prepared. We find solutions. We perform better. We get an overview. But do we really? Yet another distinction: Worrying is not the same as problem solving. Worrying is the mental activity in which we envisage future negative events over and over. Problem solving is taking steps to reduce the likelihood of something happening or solving an actual problem. Worrying is constant fear of getting cancer. Problem solving is to have a healthy and good diet and keeping active to reduce the likelihood of getting cancer. Which one is the most effective way of reducing the risk of cancer? Thoughts or action? Similarly, checking flight times, the weather forecast or news sites for plane crashes does not reduce the likelihood of an airplane engine malfunction.

But don’t you perform better if you feel stress? That’s true! For instance, stress can motivate us to practice more or do something about it (i.e. problem solving). It may also make us perform better when we’re doing something demanding. But worrying tends to happen in days, months or even years before what we fear actually occurs — or maybe it never happens at all. If we really think about it, we know that worrying takes a toll on our sleep and energy. We know also that our fears tend to be much more extensive and devastating than things usually plays out. Worries might be crippling, exhausting and strikingly inaccurate. Does that really make us more prepared?

It may seem obvious or even arrogant, but basically worrying is quite useless in itself. If you do not have a problem, there is no need to worry. Let’s say you have a problem. If there is anything you can do to solve it, you need not worry. You could practice problem solving. If there is nothing you can do about the problem, worrying is no solution.

Recognize Negative Thoughts

The challenge for worriers is to first recognize how worrying may tear and wear us down. It doesn’t do us any lasting physical or mental harm, but it is very stressful and exhausting. Furthermore, we must enhance the experience of control by trying new strategies to reduce our anxiety. We have to practice on recognizing negative thoughts but actively choose not to delve into them, or use problem solving instead.

How can we treat thoughts without worrying? You can try the following exercise. Introduce a “worry break” for half an hour every night. This is not a break from worrying, but a break for worrying. The rest of the day you can postpone all your worries until this break. Try to think the following: “There goes a negative thought about […]. The fact that the thought is here is okay, but I do not need to worry about it right now. I can postpone my worrying for later. ’ll handle it in the worry break, but let the thought itself be there now if it wants to.”I

Do not let it become a polar bear by getting annoyed or scared. Thoughts are just thoughts. When you get to the worry break, check if you still need to worry. If you still feel like it, then do it. You can do a lot of efficient worrying or problem solving for half an hour. Afterwards, you postpone “the left-overs” to the break the next day. If you are not worried anymore, you can just skip the break.

This is just one of many techniques to reduce worrying. You can meditate. Practice creating distance to thoughts in order to let them be. Divert your attention in a friendly manner. Reduce checking and seeking confirmation. The possibilities are many and there is good help. It all starts, however, with the recognition that the thoughts themselves are not threatening or “wrong.” It is how we treat those thoughts which is the problem.